Everyone's Happy, You're Exhausted

Vanessa Bohns's research reveals a forty-eight percent gap between how often you expect rejection and how often it actually happens. That tightness before you hit "Sure, go ahead" at 7:40 PM isn't intuition; it's a measurable bias. Drawing on ninety-five studies linking emotional labor to burnout and experiments where embarrassing-t-shirt wearers doubled their estimates of who noticed, this book dismantles the arithmetic that keeps you perpetually available. The Liking Gap, the "I don't" frame, the prediction journal: tools to recalibrate.

You'll learn:

- Why "I don't" outperforms "I can't" in boundary-setting

- How the always-reachable expectation drains you before any message arrives

- What ten logged predictions reveal about your personal rejection bias