The Three Sentences of Not Wanting Mola

John Gottman's research at the University of Washington reveals why your best argument fails: once your heart rate crosses roughly a hundred beats per minute, your capacity to listen collapses. This state, which Gottman calls flooding, feels like clarity but is actually a narrowing. Brad Bushman's 2002 experiment with 600 students proved that venting makes it worse. The skill isn't finding the right words; it's staying in a body that can deliver them.

You'll learn:

- Why flooding feels like certainty but signals lost flexibility

- The three-part break sentence that prevents stonewalling

- How harsh startups in the first three minutes predict outcomes