Your Sexual Desire Hasn't Disappeared, It's Being Blocked.

Emily Nagoski's Come As You Are dismantles the myth that fading desire signals a broken relationship or a broken self. Drawing on the dual control model developed by Erick Janssen and John Bancroft at the Kinsey Institute, she reveals that your brain runs two independent systems: a sexual excitation system scanning for positive signals and a sexual inhibition system pulling desire down whenever it detects stress, shame, or unfinished conflict. The real culprit is rarely a weak accelerator; it's a brake that stays pressed while no one notices.

You'll learn:

- Why responsive desire is as valid as spontaneous desire

- How incomplete stress cycles keep the brake engaged

- What a personal brake inventory reveals about your patterns